To the Girl who Feels Lost

A Letter To the Girl who feels Lost

To the girl who feels lost,

Just like you, I’ve had a lot of ups and downs in my life. I grew up in a loving home, had amazing friends, and met the man of my dreams in college. In the midst of the blessings, there have been a lot of storms, especially for my family. I learned to be the mediator, and I become highly independent so my parents never had to worry about me. I worked full-time through college, got married during my senior year, and continued to work non-stop so my husband could finish school and start his career. Without realizing it, I lost myself. I lost myself in survival mode. My head was down, for 8 years, while I was running as fast as I could until my eyes saw the finish line.

I wouldn’t say I crossed the finish line, but I did manage to look up last year. My husband finished college, started his career and I no longer needed to work in survival mode. I quickly learned that I didn’t love my job and that I was 3 years post-grad and still clueless about what I wanted to do in life. So I started searching and praying. I started researching hobbies, careers, side hustles, etc. I started praying that God would direct me somehow or put an idea in my head. This went on for months. Then I was invited to an all-day women’s conference.

What did I do?

The introverted side of me cringed at the thought of waking up at 7 AM on a Saturday to attend a 9-hour women’s conference. But my sweet mother-in-law asked so I agreed. Just so happens that the theme of the Women’s Propel conference was women finding their purpose. “Passion, Purpose, Cultivate.” How to use your purpose for the glory of God. There was a poet named, Hosanna. She performed her Poem, “I Have a New Name”. Her poem is about how we define ourselves by titles and names that other people have called us. Or we identify with names like “failure” “Ugly” “Unworthy” ‘Anxious” because of past experiences that have happened to us. Instead of learning and growing from those experiences we allow them to shame us, preventing us from truly stepping into our purpose.

I left feeling inspired, full of hope, and encouraged. I still didn’t know what I wanted to do in life. But I did know, that I wasn’t made to just be someone’s cheerleader or the mediator. I was made for a purpose, whether I knew the purpose or not. For a couple of months after the conference,  I continued to pray, research and grow personally. I couldn’t get the thought of other women feeling Lost and how they need encouragement. Then on a drive home from work, it hit me. Clear as day, with a peace I hadn’t felt before, I was going to create a community, provide resources, and products for all women to feel encouraged and inspired.

Let me be crystal clear to you

Even though I know in my heart that this is what I’m supposed to do does not mean that I am an expert.

• Technology is my enemy.
• I don’t know how to create products.
• My major is in childhood development. Not Business.
• Writing is not my strength.

But I do have:

• A love and passion to see people succeed.
• Resources.
• Incredible mentors.
• Leadership skill.
• Faith.

I no longer feel Lost, even though I don’t have all the tools. Keep praying, seek counsel, research, and get out of your comfort zone. Believe that you have a purpose! It’s okay to not know. But if something is tugging at your heart, chase it. It might be what you are looking for.