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How to Have a Healthy Relationship
Have you ever looked at a couple, like your grandparents, and wondered how they have stayed happy and together for so long? I know I have. Developing a healthy relationship is can be difficult, but maintaining one is the hardest part. Whether you are single or in a relationship, these tips and tricks can help you deepen your connections and make your relationship stronger.
Actively listen to your partner. You should listen more than you speak, especially in an argument. By listening to your partner, you will begin to better understand them, and they will feel supported. Sometimes listening means more to them than you trying to “solve” the problem or figure out a solution. Some people are verbal processors and need to talk without their partner interrupting or helping them out.
Communicate, communicate, communicate. I cannot stress this enough. 90% of all arguments start due to a lack of communication. You have to be honest with your partner and don’t assume that they know what you are thinking or what you want from them. You can’t get mad at someone for not meeting your needs if you don’t communicate them clearly. Proper communication will strengthen your relationship and put you on the same page for your relationship and in other areas like parenting.
You’ve heard the phrase, “Assuming make an ass out of you and me” it’s true. Assuming what your partner is thinking or doing typically ends up causing an argument and unnecessary stress. If you have assumed a “problem” talk to your partner about it and don’t assume they are lying because you made up some scenario in your mind. Assuming will make your healthy relationship sour really fast.
Speak Their Love Language
The 5 Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman gives an insight into how everyone receives and gives love. The 5 love languages are physical touch, quality time, receiving gifts, words of affirmation, and acts of service. This book will help you learn how to speak your partner’s love language to deepen your relationship on an emotional, physical, and spiritual level.
I highly recommend reading this book whether you are single, dating, or married. It’s insightful and has been a huge help throughout our marriage.
Spend Quality Time Together
Spending intentional quality time together is so important. I remember when we first got married, I was feeling frustrated because I wasn’t getting the kind of quality time I thought I would even though we were living together. I realized that when we were dating, the times we were together were intentional. But now that we were married and always together, that time wasn’t intentional.
Do something together outside the normal day-to-day routine. Play a board game, go for drives around town, get some ice cream, or put your phones away for an hour of conversation. Whatever you want to do make sure you are giving your 100% to your partner during that time.
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I hope you have found these relationship tips helpful. These are personal things that my husband and I do to help strengthen our marriage. It’s not easy and takes commitment every day, but it’s worth that hard work and effort.
If you have more tips that you do in your relationships or if you have any relationship questions